T/Sgt. Stephen Lance Nesja, USAF, Retired, 80, passed away on Sunday, January 20, 2019 at the Wisconsin Veterans Home at Chippewa Falls.
He was born July 24, 1938 in Eau Claire to Maude (Dana) and Engebret T. Nesja.
Steve served honorably in the U.S. Air Force from 1956 and retired on April 1, 1980. He never spoke much about his time in the service and the family had always assumed that his main duty was as an official photographer. It was only recently we learned that he was initially trained in the safe handling and transportation of nuclear material as a nuclear weapons specialist. He reminisced that one of his qualities was that he was short and could fit into the payload section where the nuclear material was kept. It was only after he had suffered a serious motorcycle accident and had been in a coma for over a month that the Air Force determined that it was time for him to switch to a less stressful vocation.
Steve had enjoyed photography as a youth and even had a darkroom setup in the basement so that he could develop his film. For the rest of his career with the Air Force, he used these skills and traveled around the world and photographed several presidents, military officials and dignitaries.
Though he traveled around the world, he never forgot about his family back home. He would often bring back gifts for his parents, brothers and especially his nieces and nephews. A visit from “Uncle Steve” was always special! The gifts were always cherished and we still have many of them: brightly colored silk pointed shoes from Thailand, a leather stool from Turkey, two Bavarian dolls that are dressed in dirndls and lederhosen; and a little wooden plaque that reads, “Looketh for the good”.
Steve was very independent. He was usually quiet and reserved, but he opened up more about his life experiences after he had moved into the Veterans Home. These were stories we had never heard before. He talked about going with his dad to the Uniroyal plant and he could appreciate what his dad did to help support the family. “It was so hot and smelled. I couldn’t do that” Steve explained. When he talked about his mom, Maude, his word choice and mannerisms showed how much he loved her. He looked up to his big brother, Barry. He would talk about Barry’s first car, “a real beauty.” Steve followed in his big brother’s steps by also joining the Air Force. I know he looked forward to big brother visiting him at the Veterans Home to talk about their childhood neighbors and cousins. He also talked with pride about his little brother, Mike and remembered sitting at the kitchen table helping his little brother with homework. He smiled telling this story because he often thought Mike was humoring him. Mike really didn’t need his help because he was so smart, “… way smarter than me.”
There were stories about his dog Doc, and how he loved going over to his cousin’s house next door to take care of “Buzzy” the horse. About the photography class he took in high school and how nice the teacher was to him (not like his typing teacher). These stories from him were his final gift to us. They will be cherished.
Over his final years, Steve enjoyed the company of the staff and residents at the Veterans Home. The transition was a little challenging for a life-long bachelor, but when he got to know these good people and they fed him good food and made him coffee, he was all in. He always had a kind word to say about the people there and our family saw how peaceful he was to be there. Uncle Steve left this world looking for the good in people and we know he found it.
Survivors include two brothers, Barry (Mary) Nesja of Chippewa Falls, Michael Nesja of Liberty, Maine; nieces and nephews, Dana (Larry) Sommerfeld, Cubby (Lisa) Nesja, Chris Nesja, all of Chippewa Falls, Paul (Christy) Nesja of Mt. Horeb, WI, Peter (Kiersten) Nesja of Chippewa Falls, Mary Beth (Tom) Huffcutt of Altoona, Saskia (Norman) Reeve of London, England; and many great (and great great) nieces and nephews.
He was preceded in death by his parents; a brother, Christian Thomas Nesja (who died at age 5); and a sister-in-law, Erika Nesja.